Dating a Man With Kids

A man should never allow a woman to come in between him and his relationship with his child(ren). For a man that does, lacks boundaries and is not fit to be called a father. I am the product of a single mother. My dad allowed his wife to come in between our relationship. Well, from the beginning, from what I know, she didn’t like me since I was the child by the woman who had him first. You would think that this shouldn’t even be an issue, but sadly, it was and to this day, still is. I know that I have heard many years ago that he was in a marriage that he was not happy in and that they do not sleep in the same room. He even told me that the only reason he bought the big house he lives in was to make his wife and the girls (their daughters) happy. He also shared with me that the wife likes to shop and spend a lot of money. My dad is very reserved and soft spoken. I have never seen him upset. What is starting to bother me as I get older is the lack of communication on his part. He never has explained to me why our relationship was the way it was. I have heard bits and pieces from my mom, but nothing from him. I occasionally talk to some of his family members, and they have given reasons as to why the wife may not accept me. I probably will never know why. If she doesn’t say it herself, I’m only left to assume. Whatever the reason is, she has instilled the same sentiments in her children. I’m starting to wonder if he has ever tried to put his foot down to her and let her know that it’s not OK for her to come in between his relationship with his daughter. I will NEVER come in between a man and his relationship with his child(ren). In fact, I encourage a man to be the best father he can be while co-parenting. I was in a relationship with a man who had children, and I never was in the way. While him having two kids meant I had to sacrifice and share him, I was OK with that. Kids are innocent and are the byproduct of two adults coming together to create life, whether intentionally or unintentionally. I hope one day I can find healing from this broken relationship. I’ll end with this… Men, please STOP letting females keep you from having a fulfilling relationship with your children. Ladies, if you’re in a relationship with a man who has children, accept, and embrace them as if they were your own!!

Happy Dating!